The stolen jobs no one wants. Redefining expectations

As I write, a 54 year old Romanian lady is cleaning my garden (a tiny piece of dry earth where no grass grows and only fallen leaves lay). She came to Italy 18 years ago, alongside the italian man she had fallen in love with, full of hope to find a good employment with her Ph.D. in engineering. As it happened the man died before they managed to put together the necessary paperwork to get married.
At the time Romania was not part of the EU and her possibilities for any type of legal work where slim to say the least.
I met her back in 1998, when she started being our housekeeper and eventually became my beloved nanny. Since then she has regularly worked in different Italian households with a wage of about 7/8 euros/hour, with which she had to pay her own pension, taxes, etc. (she had become legal after starting to work for us).
The point of this article, though, is not the sad story of a remarkably honest, sweet, hardworking and humble woman, but rather our (wealthy, western-society people) tendency to identify part of the labor market crisis with the extensive presence of an immigrant and/or illegal workforce in our countries. So the question that I think we should honestly address to ourselves is: would we really be willing to take up the jobs of these immigrant/illegal workers, or are we only using them as scapegoats?

At a time of high unemployment, many Americans are convinced that these aliens take American jobs. As a test, in the summer of 2010 the United Farm Workers (UFW), launched a campaign called "Take Our Jobs" (http://www.takeourjobs.org/) inviting willing Americans to work in the fields. In the following three months 3m people visited takeourjob.org, but 40% of the responses were hate mail, says Maria Machuca, UFW's spokesperson (as reported by "The Economist").
Only 8,600 people expressed an interest in working in the fields, says Ms Machuca. But they made demands that seem bizarre to farmworkers, such as high pay, health and pension benefits, relocation allowances and other things associated with normal American jobs. In late September only seven (I MEAN 7!!!!) American applicants in the "Take Our Jobs" campaign were actually picking crops.
So the point was proven: most Americans did not want those jobs!
Coming back to my Romanian lady: my friends and I often are worried about our employment perspectives but it never occurs to us to actually "downsize" and contemplate a "regular" job. The type of job that is commonplace for the vast majority of people in the planet whilst we, by some type of "natural birth right" seem to be exempted from them.
How many of us complain about the labor market crisis and still pay people to clean our homes, iron our clothes, baby-sit our siblings or relatives, take care of our elderly?
So are "our" jobs (which is difficult to define anyway in this time of mobility) really getting stolen? Is there really a crisis in the labor market or is it mainly that our expectations about what a professional position should be like are not realistic?
Why is it that a Romanian women, with a Ph.D. can clean homes for 20 years without needing therapy or attempting suicide and our young generation cannot even contemplate the idea?